i want a baby im still only 17?
Question by daisy: i want a baby im still only 17?
okay so . ive always wanted a baby my whole life. my entire life my dreams were to become a mom. my dream job is and always has been to be a stay at home mom. ive baby sat worked with children and had to take care of babys and it just makes me want one eveen more. i know that i need a backup plan. im 17 and halfway through my first year of college and still continuing on to become a dental hygenist. my school has free child care and if i didnt want to do that they offor online classes as well. i started early becuase im smart. why are teen moms so frowned upon in society? i was reading a pregnancy magazine and it said the best and healthiest time for a women to have a baby is when they were in their teen years. IN the olden days girls had babys at a very young age and it was acceptable. My boyfriend is a great guy and i dont have a job right now but he has 2 jobs and plenty of money and he said if i were pregnant he would want me to keep it. . his family would be very supportive. my mother not so much. ive had my times as a teenager. ive done my partying. i have my few close friends and am not concerned with partaking in anythign stupid teenagers do. i feel as if im mature and ready to take on life, have a good sense of who i am and am a confident girl. people always say “dont you want more for your life”? but this is what ive always wanted for my life. i could still continue with school and i know i would be the best mom ever ! im in a serious postion with my life right now and been serisouly considering getting pregnant … what do you think and would this be an appropriate time for me? the only reason i am asking this is to see what people think considering MY circumstances. and to see if there is anything i have missed while thinking this over. im being completely serious and would appreciate serious, well thought out, logical answers please and thank you i would get married to my boyfriend but he has lyme disease and his medical insurance gets cut off if he gets married before hes 23 he makes more than 2 grand a month btw.
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Answer by amanda
why are you asking the same question again? your gonna get the same answers
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Finish school and go to college first trust me it is extremely hard to go to school and take care of a baby and get your work done all at the same time. Enjoy your life you are just now becoming an adult you can go places and see things that you will not be able to see if you have a baby now.
get your life established first. go to college, get your degree and then have children so you can provide for them.
Look if u think ur ready, then go for it. Personally, I don’t believe in having a baby til ur married though. U seem to have ur mind made up though so I dunno why ur asking.
Unless ur baby will hav a stable home and u will be there to take care of it emotionally and financially, I wouldn’t get pregnant. It might be worth it for the sake of ur baby to wait a few years. If u love ur future baby u will consider what’s best for it.
If you’re going to school to become a dental hygienist then there are several classes that you can not take online. You’ll have clinicals that you’ll have to do and you must be in the classroom to do this. Becoming a dental hygentist is very stressful. You’re going to have a lot of hard classes and being pregnant and having a baby will only make it harder. If you wait until you’re out of school then you know you’ll have a good paying job and can afford good child care. I know 3 years seems like a long time when you wnat a baby now but you’re better off waiting.
it is not unusual for a female to want a baby. what is different about your case is that you are still considered a minor at 17. you cannot get married without your parents approval, they actually have to sign some paperwork to allow you to do so.
you may feel you are mature for being 17 but that does not mean you are mature enough that you can handle having a baby. babies are all encompassing, they take everything you have, everything you may have been, and change it. it is hard for anyone to handle and adjust to that sort of change that no one can really predict how it will effect them. but an adult and one that has some time to experience the world as themselves first before adding in another person like that usually has a better chance at being a good parent. not that there are not wonderful young parents, there are, but really those number in the few compared to those who waited until they were more stable in their lives. when they had a few more things not only figured out but already done.
but i know that no matter what i say or what anyone says you are going to do as you wish, that is your right. so good luck and i hope that it all works out for you. sincerely i wish you all the best in your future.
Don’t do it until YOU, yourself can support the baby. There is no guarantee that your boyfriend will be there for you the whole time, so how will you support the baby?
I think your first priority should be to finish school and get a college degree. Having a baby before finishing school will not be easier. Whenever considering having a baby, you have to look at several factors. First you need to make sure that you are able to financially support this child. Next would be to make sure that you and your partner are committed to each other and in love. If not, then this will put a big strain on your relationship. You have to make sure that both of you will be there for the baby. This is very important because having a baby can be stressful. I also think you need to be more mature. A baby is a human being that depends on you to survive and making mature decisions are a must and can’t be taken lightly.
Having a baby is soooo serious. This baby will need so much and you want to be able to give it to him/her.
daisy, you sound like a smart person and you know what you want. noone can make this decision for you but you should definitely think long and hard. having a child is not an over night decision its life changing. what you need to hear is honest advice from people who are in the situation you want to be in, too many people think they need to talk down to young mothers. you say that you have your teen years under your belt and thats great but its not the truth. when i found out i was pregnant i was at a time in my life where i felt exactly like you do now and i was convinced i was past that crap forever. when i had my baby i struggled with severe postpartum depression and that was terrible and scary, i got put on medicine and started to see a counceler. when i started to feel better i got in touch with my old friends and started going out and im back to my old party animal self…..im still a great mom but im just as great of a KID. its great that you love kids that will help you when you become a mom. my point is that you might really want one now but when you have stitches in uncomfortable places and when you have stretchmarks and a floppy belly you cant get rid of and your waking up in the middle of the night alll the time…your gonna look back and say wow i was stupid. the other thing is that not every baby is perfect and some of them are sick and need medicine or a super expensive special diet, and sometimes that doesnt do the trick and they just want to scream bloody murder no matter what you do. i think you love kids so much because the ones youve dealt with arent yours. you have this beautiful ability to produce a child from inside of you…and your gonna have that for a while! just wait till your done with school and you have a steady career. if you want one this badly now chances are youll want one in a few years. id wait if i were you.
but good luck and know there are people and resources you can reach out too when your a mother and you should take advantage of them.
i hope the best for you,
-young mom
Oh my dear, you have so much to learn before you bring an innocent life into the world. If you dream of being a live at home Mom, find yourself a Healthier and richer FOB (Father of the baby). Your #1 priority is an education that gets you a good job so that you are never financially dependent on someone else. Husbands can turn out to be abusive and you don’t want to find yourself trapped in a bad relationship. 2 grand a month is not much of a financial cushion. Babies cost alot. While you are fantasizing, start writing down a spending plan for a baby. Really make sure you can afford it first.
I have Lyme disease and can’t work any longer. I know several people in the same boat. Consider the possibility that your boyfriend could become disabled. That could place you in the position of family breadwinner with him staying home and caring for the baby. Life is full of surprises. It pays to make careful plans, preparations and delay gratification of heartfelt desires until you are really set.
wow that is a lot to process..Hmmm. Well your 17. If you have a kid now you will be 34 when its 17 and if they have a kid you will be a grandma by 35. If it continues you will be a great grandma by 54. and a great great grandma by 71… Look If you want to have a kid, Then have a kid. You seem ready to handle it. Go for it. Keep screwing till your pregnant. You will have a kid, have to drop out of school (cause your having a baby) then take care of the baby when it is up a 2 am crying because of an ear ache. Your relationship will be stressed because of lack of sleep. Baby’s suck money faster than it comes in. So you will be broke which will be more stress. Then he is going to regret having the kid because of the stress the baby is causing. But you wanted the kid. So just be prepared for the ups and downs. You baby sat? well normally you just see the ups in babysitting, the downs are doctors appointments, cold, hospital runs with high fevers. Not to mention if the baby is not healthy and contracts Lyme disease from the father.